Once upon a time in a little village called Kabiyak, there lived two hopeless romantics named Maria and Pedro. They both believed that somewhere out there, God had created one perfect soulmate just for them. They were simply waiting for a sign—perhaps a miraculous text message.
Maria’s grandmother, a wise woman who never missed church, often said,
“God helps those who help themselves. And those who wait forever for soulmates usually end up helping themselves to more sorbetes.”
(That’s ice cream, in case you’re wondering.)
One Sunday, Maria asked her pastor, “Pastor, does God believe in soulmates?”
He smiled and replied,
“Well, Maria, the Bible talks a lot about love, marriage, and faithfulness… but I’ve never found a verse describing a heavenly dating app.”
Meanwhile, Pedro was searching everywhere for his soulmate. He read horoscopes, cracked open fortune cookies, and even convinced himself he’d found “the one” because they both loved Jollibee Chickenjoy.
Unfortunately, she was already married—to a man who couldn’t stand the Jollibee mascot.
After many awkward attempts to discover their “other halves,” Maria and Pedro eventually met at a church potluck. They laughed over some spectacularly burnt adobo and realized something unexpected.
Perhaps love isn’t about finding a perfect missing piece.
Perhaps it’s about two imperfect people choosing to build a life together, one imperfect piece at a time.
Maria smiled.
“Maybe Christianity doesn’t talk about soulmates because God wants us to choose love instead of simply waiting for it to fall into our laps.”
Pedro nodded.
“Or maybe He just wants us to enjoy the potluck.”
Either way, they both agreed that while Christianity never promises soulmates, it certainly encourages love, commitment, forgiveness… and preferably adobo that isn’t burnt.
Now, Let’s Talk About Soulmates
The idea of soulmates is everywhere.
Movies tell us to find “the one.”
Songs sing about “my other half.”
Advertisements sell mugs, candles, and T-shirts celebrating soulmates.
Social media assures us that somewhere out there is one perfect person destined to complete us.
But what does the Bible say?
I searched.
I looked for a story.
A command.
A promise.
A hint.
Anything.
I found nothing.
Not a single passage teaches that God created one exclusive romantic partner for every individual.
The Bible speaks extensively about love, marriage, faithfulness, wisdom, purity, covenant, and sacrificial commitment—but never about soulmates.
What About Adam and Eve?
Some point to Adam and Eve.
But let’s be honest.
Eve was literally the only woman on earth.
Adam wasn’t choosing between Eve, Sarah, Rachel, or someone from the neighboring village.
He couldn’t exactly swipe left on zebras.
The story teaches God’s design for marriage—not the existence of soulmates.
What About Paul?
Then there’s the Apostle Paul.
He remained single and even encouraged singleness for those who were called to it (1 Corinthians 7).
If everyone had one predestined soulmate, Paul apparently never went looking.
Nor did he encourage anyone else to.
His focus was serving Christ wholeheartedly.
Free Will Matters
One of the greatest gifts God has given us is free will.
We choose whom we marry.
We choose whether we will love sacrificially.
We choose faithfulness.
We choose forgiveness.
Marriage is not sustained because two people were magically destined for each other.
It is sustained because two imperfect people continually choose covenant love.
So if you marry someone who squeezes the toothpaste from the middle…
Well…
That wasn’t fate.
That was your decision.
Here’s Another Thought
Imagine someone knocks on your door and proudly announces,
“Hello! I’m your soulmate. I’ll make you miserable for the rest of your life. You’ll cry every day—but don’t worry, we’re destined to be together.”
That doesn’t sound very romantic.
It sounds more like imprisonment than love.
The Bible never describes marriage that way.
Instead, Scripture calls husbands and wives to love, serve, forgive, honor, and remain faithful to one another.
Love is not something that happens to us.
It is something we choose to practice.
Does Someone Else Complete You?
People often say,
“My soulmate completes me.”
But if another person completes you, does that mean you were only half a person before you met them?
In Christ, we are already complete.
No human being can fill the place that belongs to God alone.
Marriage is a wonderful gift, but it was never designed to replace our relationship with our Creator.
So What Should We Look For?
Rather than searching for “the one,” perhaps we should ask different questions.
Is this person pursuing Christ?
Do we share the same faith?
Will we encourage one another to obey God?
Can we build a life centered on Him?
Do we share the same mission and vision?
Those questions are far more biblical than asking whether someone is our soulmate.
Final Thoughts
The next time someone says,
“I’m just waiting for my soulmate,”
you can smile and gently remind them:
God isn’t running a cosmic matchmaking service.
He calls us to wisdom instead of superstition.
To covenant instead of destiny.
To commitment instead of fantasy.
And perhaps, just perhaps…
to enjoy the church potluck while we’re at it.